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Gardening to improve relationships

I have always found myself feel happier when gardening and when this has been shared with others, I have found my relationship has got stronger.

Doing anything with others such as a project helps bond and deepen relationships. In this instance, it’s gardening but I could say the same for photography, cooking, art…anything that you can have fun with.

When you are doing a project with someone, the focus is on the project and somehow, the connection blooms, conversation flows, silences are comfortable. And at the end of the day, you can not only enjoy the achievement in the garden but spend time in the garden enjoying the deepened relationship <3

The absolute joy the kids felt seeing their sunflowers get so big!!

Getting the kids to help with planting out seedlings with hubby. Precious, fun family times <3

If you’d like to join me on my new 6 month gardening to improve wellbeing program, please click the image below. We’d love for you to join us <3

Time to talk

I’m sure many of you  have seen Time to Talk being promoted on social media and hopefully many of you were brave and talked about your experiences with others.

I wonder how it was for you telling others about something so deep and secret, laying yourself vulnerable to others?
Were they surprised?
What did their reaction bring up in you?

But now what?

Starting the conversation is just the first step, in my opinion. There is so much more that needs to happen but the first step is often the biggest and hardest.

What else?
I feel we need to educate those around us on how we live with our illnesses and what it means to us.

I have always tried my best to be as open as possible with my family (hubby and kids) about how I was feeling and what I needed at the time; some days I needed nothing and had the energy of 10 mamas, blasting through chores and being in control. Then there were the other days when getting out of bed was the most difficult task in the world, my head feeling like lead and no strength to lift it.

It is important to know your own highs and lows, good and bad days to be able to ask for help, to delegate, to seek support, to be cared for in the way you need. This might be another tough step because most of the time, we have got so good at hiding how we are and our feelings from ourselves.

If those around you love you, they will step up and support you. If their reactions are less than you’d hoped, it will be hard to digest and deal with but at least you know where you stand and you are being honest. Perhaps you might need to change your relationship dynamics and put some boundaries in place to help you feel safe? Only you know what you need to do and who is in your support network and where they stand.

Mental health is very unique in how you can help heal and feel better because it is these very connections that hold the power, the magic and the healing. It is very important to get your support system right, to keep yourself safe and to only share what you feel comfortable with.

Talking about it is the first step but mind how you go on this journey and keep safe xx