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How to look good in photos

Everyone worries so much about how they look in photos, here is a quick guide to help you relax and be more comfortable having your photo taken – and seeing yourself in images!

Did you know that many of us suffer from Petit Mort when a camera is pointed at us? Yes, we freeze and have a ‘little death’!!


  • Show your good side (it’s often the side where your hair parts).
  • Lower your front shoulder slightly to create more dynamic angles and elongate your neck.
  • Stick out your chin a tiny bit to prevent double chin.
  • Express yourself through your eyes: think positive thoughts or just bring energy into your gaze.
  • Blink halfway through a count of three (if the photographer gives you one) so that your eyes won’t be mid-blink for the shot.
  • If you’re posing for a full body shot, turning your body three quarters of the way towards the camera, with one shoulder closer to the camera and one foot in front of the other. This will make you body appear slimmer than if you were facing the camera face on.
  • For seated shots, extend your neck and then tilt your head down slightly to get rid of double chin actions, as well as views up your sinuses.
  • Forcing a fake chuckle will transform your cheesy smile into the genuine you inside. Think of a funny joke, pretend the photographer is naked, or just think of someone who makes you happy – your natural smile will emerge and make you look a lot better.
  • Remember, action is your friend.  Place your hands on your hip, and laugh. Smile at another person in the photo and engage in a short joke. Let your personality shine through your activity and you’ll be surprised at how much more photogenic you really can be.
  • Make sure you feel proud of who you are. If you feel like you are ugly, then you won’t look your best in the picture. If you’re uncomfortable with your teeth, learn to smile with your mouth closed and ‘smile with your eyes.’ Remember, you can experiment with all different kinds of emotions. The main thing is to always be aware of your body.
  • Feel comfortable, confident, and have fun!


  • Face the camera head-on; you don’t want to look like you’re having a mug shot!
  • Stand too far apart when posing with a group. Even if standing much closer than usual feels odd, it will look natural in the photo.
  • Hesitate to take a lot of shots—the more pictures you take, the more you’ll have to choose from when it’s time to select your favorites.
  • Just stand there! Experiment with poses and give the photographer a range of expressions.
  • Don’t try to bend your body into uncomfortable or awkward poses – just be yourself and let your mood take over your body.
  • Don’t just settle for a half-felt emotion – commit fully to the shoot.





Managing anxiety

Anxiety is a really tough one to get through, especially when it’s a situation out of your control. Here are a few tips I found myself telling one of you lovely ladies when you emailed me; I actually hadn’t realised that I had these coping strategies until I was asked to help!

There are a few things you can do, that I do that you might find useful:

  • Being grateful is a great way of keeping things in perspective – especially when the days seem all bad. Look for the tiny things to be grateful for, the ground to walk on, shoes on my feet, the air to breathe, being healthy etc…it sounds really simple but it really does work.
  • Self care – get in lots of self care and self love, over used words, I know, but that helps too. Imagine your best friend was going through this, what would you do for her? Do it for yourself! You can give yourself hugs and be self compassionate, talk to yourself in a loving way, do fun things to counteract the stress/anxiety.
  • See your worth – easier said than done but I know from first hand experience stress and anxiety can affect your self esteem. So whenever you do something, no matter how small, congratulate yourself, make a list, tell others. Keep remembering that you are good at things, you are worthy and you are loved.
  • Breathe – if you get full on anxiety attacks, try to breathe through them in a meditative mindful way. Ground yourself, concentrate on your breathing and it can help calm you down and get you back to you. One great thing I say to myself is, ‘I am held in place securely by gravity, air and breathing is the one constant in my life, I belong, I am worthy, It’s going to be ok, I am ok’…it really helps!
  • Music helps too, almost ignore everything else happening and just lose yourself in a song – sing along if you want, or use up that extra energy to dance it out. Listen to every single note, it helps
  • Of course I would also take photos because that helps to calm and concentrate the mind but it isn’t always possible. If I haven’t got a camera and I’m feeling anxious, I do look around and pretend like I’m taking photos. So seeing things, framing them with my mind’s eye, seeing it from different angles etc…that helps me focus and be in the moment, really seeing what is around me.

You are not alone in this and I hope that has helped. Let me know how you get on, don’t worry, you’ve got this <3

How to free your space and free your mind

Have you heard the saying that a tidy space reflects a tidy mind?

Have a look around you and see what is there. Are you deeply happy in the space you are in?

Our environments have a huge impact on our mental well being and for many people, if the space is cluttered and disorganised, it could be reflecting or affecting the mind.

How can we fix this? Declutter of course!! Go through your things and get rid of anything that gives you a bad memory or makes you feel bad about yourself.

Let go of the ‘when I loose weight, I’ll fit into this and that’, let go of the ‘one day I’ll make this or do this’ and the ‘I’ll fix this’.

Don’t get me wrong, if you are going to, then do it, take control and set some time aside to do it but look deep within yourself, if you are not, then let go and give yourself that extra headspace.

If something has got sentimental value but is broken beyond repair, then take a photo of it. If you love a dress because you have great memories of when you wore it but doesn’t fit any more, take a photo of it.

Can you think of examples of things you need to let go of but haven’t because of how it makes you feel? Or the memories you have because of it?

You will also be amazed that through letting go of physical things, you will find your mind will be freer and have more space for new things – physically and mentally. Perhaps new opportunities? New hobbies? New friends? A new look showing the new confident you

Photographing these objects can help you keep those feelings and memories without taking up physical space.

Give yourself a break and free yourself up from unwanted things in your life. Remember, taking photos of things can help you let go

Let me know if this has been helpful; What have you let go of physically but kept a photo for emotional reasons?