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It’s nightlife, but not as you know it

When I did the night shifts at Samaritans, it used to take me days to get back into to a good routine.

When I get disturbed at night now, I’m useless the next day!

It got me wondering how on earth did I manage with a baby and a toddler?!?! Those nights when one was sick and the other would wake. Or just get used to having a baby in the first place needing a feed every 5 mins (felt like it anyway!)

This is something we don’t seem to appreciate as new mums, as partners, as families or as a society to some extent.

We’re still expected to carry on as normal and do ALL that we did before, forgetting that simply having a baby is much more, perhaps more than everything we’d done before.

Working 24/7, non stop, very few breaks, hardly having time to even have a hot shower, hot meal or even a hot drink. And going to the loo in peace becomes a distant memory.

So you lovely mums, please don’t forget that even though it feels you’re not doing much, not managing all those tasks that were part of your unthinking routine, you ARE doing LOADS!

You’re learning a new job, a new routine, juggling new dynamics with conflicting advice, judgements and self doubt.

And looking back now with my babies 18 and 16 I find myself remembering those silent nights feeding them, when it was just us, when those heart melting smiles when they were happy to see me, when I felt pure love and gratitude.

So whatever you’re going through now, it will not last. And, luckily all those nights when we were both crying, when I felt lost and alone, like a failure, frustrated and angry…and those negative feelings seem to be dissolving, leaving snippets of beautiful memories.

You’re doing great and are just where you need to be, in THIS MOMENT in time. <3

Thank you for all the work you are doing xx


Now this has been knocking around for ages and comes and goes out of fashion. I guess the term mindfulness and the fact that so many people have talked about it, has made it slightly confusing and complex. I’m here to tell you it really isn’t. Again, this is a super simple but hugely important practice to get into.

For me, mindfulness is basically being fully and completely present in the moment. It has taken a lot of practice on my part and I know I’m not fully there yet. However, I do find this helps me take time out, sort of like a little holiday, a rest for my mind in everyday life.

You can be doing anything at all and the example I like to use is driving (sorry for those of you who don’t drive!), although this can be applied to anything at all. When we drive, how much is in our consciousness? Have you ever driven somewhere and thought, “How did I get here?”. That feeling of not remembering is because you are doing things unconsciously; you are so skilled at it, you don’t even have to think about it! Does that make sense?

Being fully and completely present means you are conscious about EVERYTHING.
As I am typing this, I can use all my senses to be present;
my eyes taking in the screen,
my ears hearing the whirring of my computer fan, the birds singing outside, my breathing
my fingers touching the keys, the movement of my fingers, the chair hugging my body, the desk under my arms
my nose smelling the jasmine incense, the rain outside, my perfume
and delving deeper, my heart feeling expansive, feeling at peace

I’m not thinking about what has happened before or what will happen after this moment. I am simply and fully in this moment.

Being present will help keep you calm, will relax you, will give you a little breather in your busy life.
It will help you become more aware of what is around you and your connection with your surroundings.
It will help you notice more of what you have, of how you are.
In this moment, you are fully conscious, you are awake to all you have and all you are.
It helps put things into perspective and gives clarity and focus.

You can choose how long you want to be mindful, sometimes 5 minutes is enough to give a nice little recharge if you need it.