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Tips on how to love your body

Quick 5 top tips on what to do when you feel really unhappy about yourself and your body.

1) Distract yourself; stop obsessing and thinking about it by distracting yourself. Go out and do something, meet up with friends, take a nice walk in nature, get your camera and take some photos.

2) Find out why you feel this way; really think about it. Were things said to you while you were growing up? Who said them? Has something else happened that has upset you?

3) Build your self worth and self confidence; do something nice for someone else, do something out of your comfort zone – what is it you’ve always wanted to do?

4) Remember all positive things that have been said to you; Start writing a list to yourself about your positives, start telling yourself daily, in the mirror, I am worthy of living, I am special

5) Don’t compare your insides with everyone else’s outsides; Everyone puts on mask to the world and hide what is going on inside them. Everyone else feels the same way so stop comparing yourself to others.

Have you got anything to add?

Love your body – Step 3; Change body perception

Since we are little, we have seen ourselves in mirrors or in photos that someone else has taken of us.

How do you see your body? Take some time now to make a note of anything that comes to mind.

This exercise will gently help you start taking photos of yourself, in a fun way and will help you to see yourself differently.

Do you remember those crazy mirrors at the sea side arcades? The ones where you either look really tall or squished?

The images that you see in those mirrors are funny because they do not match up to the image in your mind about how you look. They are funny because your body is so distorted, in some mirrors, distorted to beyond recognition.

So, this exercise is about changing your perception about your body. Take lots of photos of yourself in reflections. The more distorted the better. I want you to see yourself as you never have!

This is a fun way to start learning how to take photos of yourself and to have a laugh at the images you create.

Taking photos of yourself is not a scary thing to do, seeing yourself is not scary and you do not look horrid, ugly – or any other negative thoughts that are popping into your head. (And are you batting them away with 3 positives?)

After you have a collection of photos, consider these questions:

Did you enjoy the process?

Did any of the images surprise you? What was the surprise?

Did any of the images upset you and why?

What emotions has it brought to the surface?

Which one is your favourite and why?

Is there a theme in your photos?

Did you find yourself concentrating on a particular area of your body?

Will you share your images? If so, who will you share them with?

What title would you give to your collection?

Make notes on anything else you notice.



Step 1 – Love your body; Illusions

The first step is to show you what really goes on in the media and how much work goes into processing images after they are taken.

When women are photographed, hardly anyone seems happy with their appearance with the main focus how they look; their nose is to big or there are too many chins or laughter lines. With SO much worry about their own appearance, they have missed seeing the loving connections between their families right in front of their eyes.

Enough really is enough.

Below is a video I think sums up the problem quite perfectly. Have a look by either clicking on the image or the link below

Dove evolution – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46U

What did you think?

It would be helpful to write down some of your thoughts. Were you shocked? Surprised?

If you notice, first she has a full make over with hair and makeup professionally done. Then she has photographs taken with proper lighting and a professional camera with a proper professional lens. This makes a huge difference to what a photo looks like. I personally thinks she looked great just like that.

BUT then there is so much Photoshop done to her face and that just makes my heart sink! If someone that beautiful needs to have that much work done on her, what hope is there for mere mortals such as us to look great?

That is the point!

Modern day photography, with the help of editing software, changes images so far from the original that it is unrealistic. Some photographers out there seem to pride themselves on doing so much work on images to help women look ‘better’ (getting rid of bingo wings, flabby tummies etc).

Do you agree with this?

It would be interesting to note down a few reactions to this right now; if you were to have a photo shoot would you want the photographer to get rid of all the bits about you that you didn’t like? What would you get rid of? What don’t you like about yourself?

This term is called the ‘Photoshop diet’ or ‘Photoshop cream’; how to look good without even trying.

So the next time you see images on a billboard or are flicking through a magazine, look at it with this new found knowledge.

I’m sure you knew to some extent how much post editing has been done but now I hope you can see the extent to which it can be done and realise that these unrealistic views of beauty are just that;

Unrealistic and unachievable.

So your first exercise is to have a look at these images and make a note (either mentally or write it down) every time you see something too perfect.

Have a look at this talk from a model who talks honestly about her experiences by either clicking the image below or the following link:


I love this talk because it is from someone who has been there and literally walked the walk. Watching this also makes me think about what sort of messages are we sending to the next generation? Would you want your fourteen year old daughter to look so sexual? At what age do you think young girls feel the pressure to be ‘beautiful’?

It is my dream that, as women, we are comfortable in our skins and we are beautiful from within, not just have a surface beauty as fragile as egg shell, giving no joy or depth to our lives. Wouldn’t that be a magical gift to pass on to the next generation? Self worth, self confidence and an ability to love themselves?

Love Your Body

downloadFirst few paragraphs of my 7 steps to Start Loving Your Body, free for you!

“I personally feel a lot of our body issues are projections of things going on in our minds. Because maybe we cannot understand or accept them, we project them onto our physical being to gain some control.

There is no magic cure on how to love your body but what I am offering you here, with these 7 steps, is the chance to change your mindset, to see things in a different light and to explore yourself and hear what the real YOU wants.

I know it’s not easy when life gets in the way or you find that you haven’t got the time, or sometimes you simply haven’t got the emotional energy to do any more.

But what is the alternative?

To continue to feel rotten when you can’t find anything to wear? Not looking people in the eye when you walk past them worrying that they’ll notice that one thing you are really worried about? Or maybe you don’t even go out anymore because the effort to cover up all those things that are wrong with you is just too much? Or you simply cry yourself to sleep every night because you just hate your body? Maybe you feel you don’t actually deserve to love your body or you don’t feel you deserve to love yourself?

This is your life and if you need permission to allow yourself to do this, then I give it to you. There comes a time when enough is enough, to stop the emotional roller coaster you are on and take a break. So make some regular time for yourself and tackle these 7 steps to finding your body confidence.

You have been given one life and you are in control of it. You and only you can decide which direction to take, even if that means a whole new path in life. You know what? You are worth it and you deserve it 😀

It is scary trying to do new things, but I promise you these exercises are not scary and are so simple to follow. You just have to allow yourself the time and space to go through the process, hear your inner voice and be honest with your answers. You will be able to learn so much about yourself, things you have forgotten and things you haven’t realised yet.

This is a safe, secure space where no one will judge you and you can finally be the YOU that you want to be.

Doesn’t that sound good? Are you ready for the first step?

Take my hand and let us begin…

First step, download your 7 steps to Start Loving Your Body copy and let me know how you get on!