When was the last time you asked yourself, ‘What do I need?’, ‘What do I want?’.
Many of us never ask ourselves that question and we carry on, regardless of what is going on around us and regardless of our needs.
When we’re full of anxiety or so low and depressed, we still carry on like nothing has changed. We are the ones with the problem and we try to ‘fix’ it with coping strategies – some good and some dangerous.
How about trying a different way of doing things? Maybe a better, deeper and more fulfilling way?
When something goes wrong and we end up living with something like anxiety or depression, we are trying to tell ourselves something. We are screaming at ourselves to change things but we don’t hear it because we are not listening.
Take anxiety for example. Why have you got it?
Are you doing too much and not resting, keeping your mind and body fully alert, even when it’s not needed?
Are you putting yourself in situations where you are out of your depth, with little or no support or guidance?
Is there too much going on and you feel like you are spread too thin and being pulled apart trying to keep everything going?
There is a reason you are feeling anxious, maybe many reasons.
A good way to deal with this is to hear what Anxiety is trying tell you. Maybe you need to write a list of all the demands on you and talk to someone in your support network to talk about the pressures you are under.
Write down what is immediate, in a few months and what is long term. Breaking it down like this will help you tackle things at the appropriate times. Anxiety loves to think and stress about everything (even something 20 years in the future!). By breaking it down, you will be able to see, clearly what needs to be actioned or thought about when, releasing some of that tension.
Keep asking yourself, ‘What do I need right now’ and hopefully you will start to listen to the answers and learn to trust your instincts. x