Category Archives: body perception

Relationship with food

“I hated my body. I hated me. I used to cry myself to sleep most nights. I fell into the deepest, darkest depression and I was so lost and lonely. I avoided mirrors, hated it whenever we needed to go out because things simply didn’t fit anymore. I didn’t want to see anyone, because all the other mums looked like they had it together, they were coping and looked great. They’d gone back to pre-pregnancy weight and shape. To lose my weight, I started skipping meals and only eating chocolate or puddings. I was horrible though, so grumpy, shouty, snappy. Eventually the weight did come off but looking back I can see what a damaging way I treated my body.” Words from a client

What is your relationship with food and your body? Do you skip meals to lose weight? Or eat for comfort?

Our relationship with food is one that some of us don’t even think about or we obsess about it. Our relationship with food is extremely complex, some of it from our childhood, maybe even from when we were weaned onto solid food. It is sometimes the only thing we feel we can control but it has also been used to control us.

With my busy clients, food seems to be the first thing that goes, simply ‘forgetting to eat’. Or scoffing down comfort, high energy, low value food while feeding others well. Or with those who are feeling low, there is simply not the interest.

Where would you start with trying to sort out your relationship with food though? This is something so ingrained in you and you have your default reactions and actions, habits difficult to break.

I would say self compassion and self love which in itself isn’t an easy step to take. If you do see yourself as someone to take care of and love, the first question would be, “What would you like to eat today?”. Use that gentleness you would use with your best friend, your child and start to look after yourself.

Not eating well contributes largely to our mood, so it is a good place to start. If you’re struggling with this, as many of us do, please seek support. You’re not alone in this xx



How do you see yourself?

For many of my clients, body image comes up as an issue and it has been an issue with most women I know. When I was doing family portraits as a photographer, this is one thing that came up the most.

We are simply not happy with the way we look!! We are forever comparing ourselves to others and feel ‘not good enough’. We view our bodies with a warped perception of how we look.

I wanted to share this video with you, not because I think you have a disorder but just wanted to highlight the point on how we can distort what we see about ourselves.¬†This video really made me stop and rethink things about me and I wonder if it will help you.¬† Have a look…

You tube video

Now have a look at yourself in the mirror.
What are you focusing on?
What negatives can you see?
Is it really as bad as you see it?
What positives can you see?